What do you do when you start doing the things you said you would never do? When you start to feel guilty a lot for not doing the things you said you would do? When you realise that you’re not being the person you want to be?
Guys, I do not have my shit together. At all.
This year I made the plan to be amazing at blogging, to post regularly, comment on other people’s blogs, to join loads of twitter chats, figure out how to maximise Pinterest, to design content upgrades, join in on Instagram challenges, and post useful content. And wow do I feel like I’ve really missed the mark on all of those.
What happened? I’ve become so unmotivated. Sometimes I wander around the house literally doing nothing because I can’t concentrate. Why?! I have no idea. I don’t have my shit together, that must be it.
I’m currently trying to figure this all out.
The thing is, I like to be reliable. I want people to come to me when they have problems or need help because I want them to know they can rely on me. But I’m starting to feel like I’m becoming an unreliable person when it comes to this blog. Not only am I not meeting my own deadlines, I’ve also been really bad at responding to emails. I feel like I’m becoming the sort of unreliable person I hate.
There have been multiple times this year where I’ve felt like I’ve needed to post an apology for being absent from this blog. And I hate it. It’s really hard for me to admit being unreliable but it’s been on my mind for the past few months. Blogging is hard guys! I’ve been doing it on and off for over 5 years, and I still forget every time how hard it is.
My year has been hectic social wise, busier than I expected, and that has taken up more of my time than I anticipated. My role at work changed, I started a case-load the other month and I’m not meeting my deadlines there either. So all around my deadlines aren’t being met. Then things are going on with my family at home in NZ that I can’t control, but ultimately it stresses me out a lot. This makes me feel like I’m failing in a lot of areas.
What can I do about it? What can I change? How can I change?
Admit I don’t have my shit together
First step is practically done!
I am admitting I don’t have my shit together. I am admitting I’m not as organised as I like. I am admitting that, well fuck, I just don’t have that much time to blog and it’s hella bothering me.
Admitting I’m struggling with my own self-imposed workload is frustrating, but necessary.
Go easier on myself
I definitely feel like I need to go easier on myself.
When I first set my blogging expectations up, I was going off of my past experiences. I used to have a lot more time on my hands when I was blogging on my other blog. I used to work evening shifts, so I would always have the mornings free to write content and do blogging things. Working a 9-5, living in busy London, having a social life, and travelling takes up a lot of time, unsurprisingly.
I don’t regret it. I don’t regret my life or the things I’m doing in my life. So why should I be beating myself up about failing my deadlines for Simply Adrift? Life happens. I just need to adjust.
Great segue into the next point…
Adjust & refine my blogging plan
And not just adjust it, but make it more specific.
Before, I just had a list of things that I wanted to do for Simply Adrift. But what I did not have was a plan or an idea of how I was going to get there. What I need to do is to pick a few things from my original list, and then come up with a plan on how I will achieve those goals, exactly. I need to think smartly, or in other words, make my goals S.M.A.R.T.
S.M.A.R.T – Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely.
Set myself a monthly schedule
I need to get more organised! If I know what I want to achieve each month, then it’s easier to plan ahead and to stay on top of the game.
I usually meal prep all of my meals for the week ahead on a Sunday, so why not use this method for blogging? I need to blog prep my blog each month. Then if something happens, I lose the will to blog yet again, or I decide to quit my job, travel the world, and find myself in internet-free-zones – then I will be covered for a wee while.
I’m not apologising right now. I’m not really apologising that I don’t have my shit together, I’m just be honest about it. But I do admit I need to stop apologising. Nothing is more cringy than another blogger apologising for being absent. I would rather that blogger just disappear for a while and then all of a sudden pop back up and carry on, business as usual.
If you’re going on a hiatus then letting your readers know is fair game. But if it’s an unexpected absence, no worries dude, you do your thing and come back when you’re ready. Don’t be sorry about it.
No one needs to apologise for not being consistent on their own blog.
Go with the flow
As much as I love to blog and as much as I love to be organised, sometimes shit happens. Life gets busy. I might want to socialise more than I have originally planned to, effectively cutting my blogging time down. I know I won’t regret seeing my friends and enjoying life.
So if I don’t blog as much as I planned to because of that, then I shouldn’t get frustrated with myself over it.
So here I am, for the last time this year, admitting that I don’t have my shit together. I promise I won’t do this again. If I suddenly disappear, I will pretend it never happened and I will turn up again as if I had been there all along. I will remind myself all of the above and move on with life!
What do you do in this situation? Have you ever felt like this? What worked for you? Do you have any time management tips? How do you get a good work/life balance? How do you make this work?