A confession: I don’t have my shit together…

25th July 2017
Blogging, Lifestyle / 12 Comments

A confession: I don't have my shit together - Simply Adrift
A confession: I don't have my shit together - Simply Adrift

What do you do when you start doing the things you said you would never do? When you start to feel guilty a lot for not doing the things you said you would do? When you realise that you’re not being the person you want to be?

Guys, I do not have my shit together. At all.

This year I made the plan to be amazing at blogging, to post regularly, comment on other people’s blogs, to join loads of twitter chats, figure out how to maximise Pinterest, to design content upgrades, join in on Instagram challenges, and post useful content. And wow do I feel like I’ve really missed the mark on all of those.

What happened? I’ve become so unmotivated. Sometimes I wander around the house literally doing nothing because I can’t concentrate. Why?! I have no idea. I don’t have my shit together, that must be it.

I’m currently trying to figure this all out.

The thing is, I like to be reliable. I want people to come to me when they have problems or need help because I want them to know they can rely on me. But I’m starting to feel like I’m becoming an unreliable person when it comes to this blog. Not only am I not meeting my own deadlines, I’ve also been really bad at responding to emails. I feel like I’m becoming the sort of unreliable person I hate.

There have been multiple times this year where I’ve felt like I’ve needed to post an apology for being absent from this blog. And I hate it. It’s really hard for me to admit being unreliable but it’s been on my mind for the past few months. Blogging is hard guys! I’ve been doing it on and off for over 5 years, and I still forget every time how hard it is.

My year has been hectic social wise, busier than I expected, and that has taken up more of my time than I anticipated. My role at work changed, I started a case-load the other month and I’m not meeting my deadlines there either. So all around my deadlines aren’t being met. Then things are going on with my family at home in NZ that I can’t control, but ultimately it stresses me out a lot. This makes me feel like I’m failing in a lot of areas.

What can I do about it? What can I change? How can I change?

Admit I don’t have my shit together

First step is practically done!

I am admitting I don’t have my shit together. I am admitting I’m not as organised as I like. I am admitting that, well fuck, I just don’t have that much time to blog and it’s hella bothering me.

Admitting I’m struggling with my own self-imposed workload is frustrating, but necessary.

Go easier on myself

I definitely feel like I need to go easier on myself.

When I first set my blogging expectations up, I was going off of my past experiences. I used to have a lot more time on my hands when I was blogging on my other blog. I used to work evening shifts, so I would always have the mornings free to write content and do blogging things. Working a 9-5, living in busy London, having a social life, and travelling takes up a lot of time, unsurprisingly.

I don’t regret it. I don’t regret my life or the things I’m doing in my life. So why should I be beating myself up about failing my deadlines for Simply Adrift? Life happens. I just need to adjust.

Great segue into the next point…

Adjust & refine my blogging plan

And not just adjust it, but make it more specific.

Before, I just had a list of things that I wanted to do for Simply Adrift. But what I did not have was a plan or an idea of how I was going to get there. What I need to do is to pick a few things from my original list, and then come up with a plan on how I will achieve those goals, exactly. I need to think smartly, or in other words, make my goals S.M.A.R.T.

S.M.A.R.T – Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely.

Set myself a monthly schedule

I need to get more organised! If I know what I want to achieve each month, then it’s easier to plan ahead and to stay on top of the game.

I usually meal prep all of my meals for the week ahead on a Sunday, so why not use this method for blogging? I need to blog prep my blog each month. Then if something happens, I lose the will to blog yet again, or I decide to quit my job, travel the world, and find myself in internet-free-zones – then I will be covered for a wee while.

Stop apologising

I’m not apologising right now. I’m not really apologising that I don’t have my shit together, I’m just be honest about it. But I do admit I need to stop apologising. Nothing is more cringy than another blogger apologising for being absent. I would rather that blogger just disappear for a while and then all of a sudden pop back up and carry on, business as usual.

If you’re going on a hiatus then letting your readers know is fair game. But if it’s an unexpected absence, no worries dude, you do your thing and come back when you’re ready. Don’t be sorry about it.

No one needs to apologise for not being consistent on their own blog.

Go with the flow

As much as I love to blog and as much as I love to be organised, sometimes shit happens. Life gets busy. I might want to socialise more than I have originally planned to, effectively cutting my blogging time down. I know I won’t regret seeing my friends and enjoying life.

So if I don’t blog as much as I planned to because of that, then I shouldn’t get frustrated with myself over it.

So here I am, for the last time this year, admitting that I don’t have my shit together. I promise I won’t do this again. If I suddenly disappear, I will pretend it never happened and I will turn up again as if I had been there all along. I will remind myself all of the above and move on with life!

What do you do in this situation? Have you ever felt like this? What worked for you? Do you have any time management tips? How do you get a good work/life balance? How do you make this work?


About Jordon

Jordon - Simply Adrift

I'mย a 27 year old New Zealander that lives in London, England, mainly so Iย can travel Europe easily. In myย spare time I like to read, watch Netflix, drink coffee, travel & explore new places, and dance around because it makes me happy. I love meeting new people and making new friends, so don't be shy, pop on over to my social media profiles and say hi!

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12 responses to “A confession: I don’t have my shit together…

  1. Jordan, my thought as someone much older is to do what you love. If traveling is getting in the way of blogging, that’s okay. Travel is a great way to experience life. A social life is so important. I know this sounds cliche, but I doubt when you’re 60 or 70 you’ll think, “I wish I’d spent more time on my blog.” But you might wish you’d travelled more and done more with friends.

  2. This post is just…spectacular. I have no words. I am a decade younger than you, but I also have been facing struggles with managing my time and blogging, what with all my AP classes, exams, general schoolwork and internships, on top of volunteering and applying to colleges. So blogging tends to fall to the wayside. And it doesn’t help that I am a MASTER procrastinator. But this post makes me want to make S.M.A.R.T goals, too. To plan out when I can do stuff. Thanks for giving me some motivation and I wish you the best on reaching your own goals. I know you can do it.
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    • I’m glad I inspired you! I definitely think blogging will become more organised if you create yourself S.M.A.R.T goals and hold yourself accountable to them. I need to work on being more specific with my goals, so I’m going to sit down and plan it month by month, then keep a record of how I’m doing. I’m a little excited to start being more organised with my blog! I definitely think they way I think about it needs to change a little.
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  3. Ah girl I FEEL YOU here. I’ve been the same. I’ve literally just sat in bed doing NOTHING when there are a million things I need to do. Being more organized helps me but I just haven’t found the right system yet. I keep experimenting because, so far, everything I’ve tried works for a day or two then I get distracted again lol. It’s also helpful to not give myself so many goals. I was like you for a while with wanting to do everything and I realized it just made me do nothing. So I set just one goal at a time and worked on that one. I hope you find what works for you

    • Getting distracted is so easy! I’m definitely one to turn off my internet when I need to sit down and write blog posts, because the internet is the bane of my productivity.

      I hope you discover a system soon! At the moment I’m going with what I feel like doing on the day, but I need more structure and goals to work towards each day so I get more things done.
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  4. I have totally been there ๐Ÿ™‚ especially as I only started blogging last October. One thing I’ve learned for sure is that it stops being fun, when… it stops being fun xD then you start procrastinating. The blog is going to be what YOU decide it’s going to be. And of you decide to post once a week? It’s absolutely fine! Who says you need to post more? It’s your blog ๐Ÿ™‚ and I know it’s easy to go comparing yourself to other bloggers who are posting every day and read 200 books on top. But you know what? They don’t have your life. Maybe they’re 16 (oh the amounts of time I had then!) or maybe they’re a childless housewife. They don’t all work 9-5 and commute. They might not cook for themselves and be in charge of a household.
    You are absolutely right about the schedule. hough! I’ve started scheduling a few months ago and right now I have a half a month buffer and it makes things SO MUCH EASIER. Automate tweets and other social media too! I sit down and set it all up when I have a free evening, and then I don’t have to think about it again. It’s great. I’m not saying I’m completely together with my blogging activities xD but when monthly report times hit for my job and I don’t know up from down, I am not lost ๐Ÿ™‚
    I know your feels so well cause I’m similar! But don’t beat yourself up ๐Ÿ™‚ your blog is beautiful!
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    • Thank Evelina ๐Ÿ™‚

      I definitely need to come to terms with the fact that I just don’t have as much time as other bloggers and that’s completely okay. I think by working on a schedule and organising my blogging time in advance, I will be able to come with a better way of blogging. I think I need more structure for the times I blog so that I get more out of the time.
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  5. Great post and one I think many bloggers can relate to. I think you’ve set some great goals here, with the most important one being to go with the flow. Life happens, whether it’s a new job or travel plans or even just feeling the need to spend time on other interests, and you definitely shouldn’t feel guilty about doing other things besides blogging. We’ve all definitely been there. ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. I relate to this soooooooo much. I told myself that this would be the year I start sorting things out, but we’re in August and I’ve accomplished literally nothing ๐Ÿ˜‚ I definitely need to be easier on myself. That’s something I struggle with majorly. I always put way too much pressure on myself and constantly compare myself to people who I know are in a totally different situation to myself. It’s a really hard habit to get out of though, haha. Anyway, you’re definitely not alone in this โ™ฅ

    • It is a hard habit to get out of! I hope you start going easier on yourself though ๐Ÿ™‚ Your blog and content are awesome.
      For me it’s definitely because when I get home from work, I’m just so tired and I don’t want to blog or to write or do anything buy watch TV or read a book. It gets frustrating. I wish I didn’t have to choose between the two!
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